Okay, I should get an award for making my son cry on the way home from school on Valentine's Day. I feel like the worst mom ever...
Jake got in the car this afternoon, very excited about his bag of Valentines and candy. I just happened to glance into his bookbag...where I noticed the big box of Valentines he was supposed to hand out to his classmates.
"Jake, why didn't you hand out your Valentines?"
I got 3 different answers. All at once. "I don't know." "We ran out of time." "The teacher didn't call my name." But he said everyone else got to give out their cards.
Ok, the problem here isn't with the fact that he didn't hand out his Valentines. Although that is a little upsetting, since he spent a lot of time writing out each name this weekend, and he seemed proud of them. Well, okay, that is part of the problem. But the bigger problem is why he won't just tell me what happened. Or just stick with "I don't know," instead of making up other answers. I feel like he's afraid he'll get in trouble if he tells me the truth.
So. Instead, he got in trouble for not telling me the truth. This isn't the first time he's come home with a story that isn't true (like the day he said he punched a kid in the face on the playground). From what I've heard from friends, this is an age thing: "I'm 4-6, so I lie." But with the issues we've had at school, I need to know what's really going on.
Was he nervous about handing out his cards? Was he embarrassed because the other kids gave out candy too (and he didn't)? What exactly happened?
I hounded him with these questions on the way home, until he finally said, "I don't want to talk about it anymore." Then...and this is what gets me the award...he said...
"I still think it's the greatest Valentine's Day ever." And he started crying.
I suck.
Jake got in the car this afternoon, very excited about his bag of Valentines and candy. I just happened to glance into his bookbag...where I noticed the big box of Valentines he was supposed to hand out to his classmates.
"Jake, why didn't you hand out your Valentines?"
I got 3 different answers. All at once. "I don't know." "We ran out of time." "The teacher didn't call my name." But he said everyone else got to give out their cards.
Ok, the problem here isn't with the fact that he didn't hand out his Valentines. Although that is a little upsetting, since he spent a lot of time writing out each name this weekend, and he seemed proud of them. Well, okay, that is part of the problem. But the bigger problem is why he won't just tell me what happened. Or just stick with "I don't know," instead of making up other answers. I feel like he's afraid he'll get in trouble if he tells me the truth.
So. Instead, he got in trouble for not telling me the truth. This isn't the first time he's come home with a story that isn't true (like the day he said he punched a kid in the face on the playground). From what I've heard from friends, this is an age thing: "I'm 4-6, so I lie." But with the issues we've had at school, I need to know what's really going on.
Was he nervous about handing out his cards? Was he embarrassed because the other kids gave out candy too (and he didn't)? What exactly happened?
I hounded him with these questions on the way home, until he finally said, "I don't want to talk about it anymore." Then...and this is what gets me the award...he said...
"I still think it's the greatest Valentine's Day ever." And he started crying.
I suck.
2 Comments:
Ahhh..poor Jake. Why is it that kids always know what to say to make us feel like the worse mother's ever, even when we KNOW we are right!
If it makes you feel better, the kids really don't care about the cards much...its the treats they want!
Maybe he can take them tomorrow and hand them out.
If it helps any, tell him that Caila has to give hers out on another day too.
They really do know just how to hit us where it hurts though, don't they. I do believe that its the age though. Hollie and I have discussed this too. Lila and Emi seem to be on a lying spree lately too, LOL.
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